Monday, 26 September 2016

Increasing Mental Wealth at City Lit


The Mental Wealth Festival 2016 took place on 13-15 September 2016 at City Lit in Covent Garden. The event highlighted the way mental health issues impact  many features of daily life, and how the arts, politics, culture, faith and the media can support ‘mental wealth’.
I went along to the City Lit with a full list of workshops and presentations to attend. The choice was a diverse range of speakers and subjects covering topics from an academic perspective through to practical skills.





The festival featured 70 events with high profile speakers such as Ruby Wax, Alastair Campbell, Hugh Grant, Paul Dolan and Cardinal Cormac Murphy-O’Connor rubbing shoulders with lesser known but equally exciting presenters.
As is often the case at these events I feel that attending one session leaves me with the feeling of having missed out; this festival had it all. And I wanted to do it all! I missed the chance to witness three members of the House of Lords take part in lunchtime tai-chi, I didn’t get to any sessions on the links between money and mental health or get a chance to take part in any of the creative workshops.  Therefore this post is skewed as I can only share personal thoughts  of the event. The festival produced a host of ideas for topics, lists of questions, people I want to interview and a general feeling of needing to do more.  The question that I have been left with relates to the importance of how we can all raise awareness and reduce stigma around our mental health?



I shall be expanding my reflections in future posts, but in a nut shell this is what I discovered:

Session: Changing Minds through Neuroscience Inspired Fashion - Sandy Walker 


Content: 
Sandy Walker, from the Faculty of Health and Sciences at the University of Southampton, shared the work that students from Winchester School of Art have produced by collaborating with the Southampton Neuroscience Group. This project aims to address the stigma and misconceptions surrounding mental health through fashion design. The students have an opportunity to visit the neuroscience department and learn about the brain patterns created in patients with mental health issues such as bi-polar disease, dementia, and Parkinson’s, they then decide which issue they wish to learn more about and are connected to someone with the condition via the Human Library. The final part of the project involves responding to all the have discovered by producing a garment  that reflects the physiological and psychological, the science and the human, in clothes that communicate what it is like to have that condition. The finished garments are a diverse collection. Some students took the images of the brain to create intricate textile designs, others responded with powerful garments that restricted the wearer. The collection was shown as a fashion show and was on show at the city lit during the festival.

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Takeaways: Could the model of this collaboration be used by other fashion education or Art departments to increase awareness of mental health issues?
How did it feel to wear the garments?
Can I interview the models to find out their phenomenological embodied experience of wearing ‘schizophrenia’ or ‘dementia’?
How did the human library participants feel about the finished collection?
What was the lasting impact (if any) on the student who took part?
The resulting garments were strong and emotional; I felt moved by the stories reworked in fabric. I had a visceral response, particular as I imagined myself wearing each outfit and how that would make me feel; trapped, misunderstood, angry, and vulnerable. The tactile nature of clothes, the way they connect with our bodies and our emotions, enclothed cognition, can shape different ways to approach opening up a dialogue about mental health.
Could this idea be extended to a younger group, school age, to create understanding?


Session:  An Artist’s Tale: Michael Nicholson in conversation with Dr Roger Banks

Content: 
Roger introduced Mike’s work as a graphic artist, his Ensixteen Editions projects and how he came to be an illustrator for Books Beyond Words. The relationship between authors (Roger) and illustrators (Mike), the way in which we translate images into meaning, how we read a blank screen to create a narrative and what does a picture ‘say’, were all explored in words and pictures.
The evolution of an idea into a tangible book charted the collaboration, team work and testing process involved in the process of creating a book beyond words.
Books Beyond Words was formed 1989 by Baroness Sheila Hollins to help people with developmental learning disabilities to understand their emotions, to help people talk about or understand adult feelings and adult experiences. Forty five titles have been published since 1989, and all have been co-produced with people who find pictures easier than words, with family carers, support staff and professionals.

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Takeaways:
Books Beyond Words provide a valuable resource for expanding understanding to a population who may not be able to access traditional routes to acquire knowledge. Pictures offer emotions a chance to escape.
How can I use images in my work to bring about change in my clients or to facilitate discussions about emotional issues?
What stories do I tell myself when I see a piece of Art? How do I read an illustration? What about the artists’ intention?
Continuity of character by using the same colours throughout make it easier to form a relationship.


Session: Fiona Wilson – Emotions, Identity and the Self Fulfilling Prophecy



Content: 
Fiona Wilson, a teacher and lecturer at St Mary's University, Twickenham, led this workshop to explore how our perceptions of self are formed by our emotions and how these in turn inform our patterns of behaviour. Fiona explained how she had moved from Emotional Literacy to Emotional Wisdom, the value of listening, watching and learning form children, how we stack our experiences to skew our understanding of ‘now’ and how ninety seconds is all we have of an experience, then rest being imagination. (The content of this workshop needs 3000 words of its own to do it justice, I will come back to this later)

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Takeaways:
We can’t out-think a feeling; we have to out-feel a feeling.
We see what we look for and hear what we listen for.
When our imagination habitually sabotages our minds our brains create pathways that biologically become traits.
Imagination is what keeps an experience going.
How can we harness reframing to become self-authors of the story we want to create?
We need to meet ourselves with forgiveness, kindness and compassion


Session: Alastair Campbell, mental health campaigner and an ambassador for Rethink and Mind in conversation with Mark Malcomson, Principal of City Lit



Content: 
Drawing on his own experiences, Alastair Campbell discussed his own mental health issues, and how he works to help break down the stigma around mental illness. He was exceptionally open about his breakdown, the impact this had on his family and career and the support he received from colleagues. Tony Blair's response when Alastair introduced his mental health issues, “I’m not bothered, if you’re not bothered “, was a lesson in trust and instincts when making decisions. Alastair explained that he feels experienced mental health problems  better qualifies him  to take on challenging roles;  he has overcome ‘stuff’ in his life, he is more resilient and understanding. How would it be if we could all be this open about our emotional battles? What would a world look and feel like if this were the norm?

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My takeaways:
Football is vital to the mental health of some people. Music too.
Why do we say it’s brave to talk about mental health?
Honesty and openness are the tools for eliminating stigma about mental health issues.
Resilience can be learnt; it’s about managing your life.
Why don’t we send get well cards and flowers when people have had a breakdown?
There is a difference between ‘being humbled’ and ‘being humiliated’.


Session: Professor Paul Dolan, LSE professor and author of bestselling book Happiness by Design in conversation with Mark Malcomson, Principal of City Lit

Content:  
Paul began by clarifying the confusion around what we mean by happiness. How in order to create the feeling of life being good we need to balance the simple pleasure feelings, the positive emotions, and the purposeful, meaningful sense of fulfilment. He expanded the idea that ‘negative’ emotions can feel ‘good’ that anger can be a driver for change and that it is our everyday life that makes us happy not necessarily the big things that we think should make us happy.




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Takeaways:
We all have a choice to make life purposeful; it can be whatever works for you.
The human condition is to seek out meaning.
Reminder: research is MEsearch.
Academics may not be so hot on pleasure but expert on purpose.
Find your own happiness maximiser experiences, they are entirely subjective.
It is healthy to have appropriate responses to situations.
We need light touch interventions around sorrow
The narrative of trauma doesn’t leave room for  those who experience trauma not to experience their life to be devastated.


Session: Reframing the Debate - A Discussion on Press Intrusion
 – Katie Traxton

Content:  
Katie showed a short trailer of her documentary on press intrusion. The film reflects on the feelings of key players almost four years after the Leveson Inquiry.  Katie Traxton handles the subject with sensitivity; she manages to create a sense of healing by allowing the subjects of the film a platform to share the deep emotions that the media intrusion caused in their lives.  The effects on mental well-being of the victims of press intrusion deserve more investigation. I would love to write more about this but the documentary is yet to be released and the feelings shared in the room at this session were not for public airing

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Takeaways:
How can we support victims of press intrusion without furthering the sense that we are consuming their stories for our own pleasure?
What role does education have in changing the manner in which we devour sensational news?
Is it possible to restore ethics in journalism?
What can be done to assist young journalists when entering the ‘business of media’ so they are able to challenge the status-quo without fear of losing commissions?
Can Positive Psychology, and Positive Occupational Psychology enter the spaces in which news is made to change the culture from the top down?


Session: Empathy in Action- Baroness Sheila Hollins



Content: 
Baroness Hollins shared reflections of her approach to wellbeing within her life and work, with compassion as ‘empathy in action’ central to her approach.  She asked us to question our own assumptions about what constitutes a caring society; why is there a lack of compassion in human services? How could we redress this? How do you avoid burnout in caring roles? Who looks after the carers? What will happen if you don’t look after those who are expected to care? When do those inner resources needed to care for others get a chance to be replenished? Baroness Hollins belief is that Mental Wealth is about relationships, and in those caring relationships what is the difference between caring about and caring for?

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Takeaways:
GRACE  is the path  to wellbeing: daily practices of giving, receiving, activity, creating and engagement.
Listening means you are able to find out what someone wants rather than giving them what you think they should want.
We can be taught to be more empathic – training medical students in empathy generates quicker recovery in patients.
Individual compassion needs to be supported with an empathic environment.
How can we create a culture of compassion?

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Session: Tools To Live By: How to listen and connect to others - with Ruby Wax


Content: 
In this culture we’re over-whelmed, over-loaded, over-stimulated, which takes us out of our minds.  Ruby guided the audience through simple mindfulness practices and explained how mindfulness helped her to regain her mental wealth.  She talked about how to de-frazzle; techniques to find your own braking system and highlighted that we can only connect with others when we’re able to think clearly and calmly. 

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Takeaways:
Gloria Gaynor was wrong; I am not what I am, I can be other things due to neuroplasticity.
Become a watcher of thoughts rather than a victim to them. Achieve this by cultivating mindfulness.
Notice ‘this are just my thoughts’ and allow a gap between the thinking and the action.
It only takes five minutes of mindfulness a day to build mindful-muscle.
Walk to get into your body and out of your mind.


Session: Rachel Kelly “How to Walk on Sunshine” Workshop

Content: 
Rachel Kelly asked the audience to stand if they had experienced mental health problems or had close family or friends who did. Not surprisingly at an event on mental health, everyone stood up. She then asked those who felt they had been able to share openly those experiences to remain standing, there were a handful who didn’t sit. Rachel’s journey back from depression and stress related mental health problems involved a variety of strategies relating to both body and mind. During this workshop we were able to experience a taster of some of the things which worked for Rachel and which can easily be incorporated in to daily life. Rachel’s steps are simple, don’t require time or money and can be adapted to make for personal habits that help our Mental Wealth, fostering resilience and making life fun again.

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Takeaways:
When you focus on your breathe you can’t worry about the future or stress about the past. You can only breath in the now.
Nutrition research is likely to offer new mental health solutions in the near future.
Gut health changes our moods; an imbalance In the stomach creates stress in the brain.
90% of serotonin produced in the body is made in the stomach.
Happy foods are dark green leafy vegetables, omega3s and real chocolate.


Session: What is #MentalMovement? 

Content:
Technically not a session,#MentalMovement  had a stand at the festival but as I spent over an hour talking to the founders, Steph and Emma, I felt as if I had been at a presentation.  I hope they are able to deliver a keynote speech next year because the work they are doing is, in my opinion, fundamental to changing the way we can change views on mental health when we enable creativity, communication, and collaboration to flourish.
 #MentalMovement wants to challenge and re-address the way mental health is dealt with and portrayed.  It is online platform created by writers who have been or are currently, struggling with or have had a personal experience of mental health.
The stories are inspiring, uplifting, funny, engaging and the content is positive in its approach to mental well-being, there is nothing preachy about what they do. #MentalMovement also looks great, the design is fresh and appealing, and the print version should be in every venue where young people gather. If I were a student I wouldn’t feel so alone if I spotted someone else reading #MentalMovement  even if I didn’t quite have the courage to ask how that person felt, I would feel that we are all in this together. There is something powerfully enlightening in #MentalMovement

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Takeaways:
Can mental health content be approached in a new way without demeaning the pain of the actual experience?
What do we need to do to reach young people in their own spaces to make it Ok to share?
Being brave can sometimes be overwhelming?
How can I listen in a way that doesn’t feel intrusive?
What is the most effective way to support people when they are in the turmoil of mental confusion?
Which Positive Psychology Interventions, if any, are most suitable to be adapted in order to be relevant to this section of society?
How can we make the way easier in the future to accept that mental health is part of life and that sharing our stories of troubled times decreases the power they have over us?


Final Thoughts

I meet some incredibly inspiring people who were very honest and willing to share their mental health challenges. This event was unique (in my experience) in creating a community of individuals all being given an equal voice to express their opinions on how we create, change and tackle our individual well being, as well as how we manage collective mental wealth. I heard experts share personal stories of battling with depression, anxiety and addiction alongside the views of mental health service ‘users’ who have a treasure trove of  ideas as to improving the manner in which they could be helped towards better well-being. I saw raw emotions expressed with authenticity and received with non-judgement and compassion.  The festival felt like a micro-climate of a caring culture of mental health, a way forward to create a vision of a safe environment in which we are allowed to communicate the full range of humanness. As a positive psychologist others occasionally assume I don’t do ‘negative feelings’, PP however poses questions relating to the way we need the full rich range of emotions in order to flourish; to embrace every aspect of our psychologically make up in order to explore the potential we all have.  The Mental Wealth Festival challenged me to examine my personal beliefs and attitudes towards my own, and others mental well-being.  There is so much we can do to get this message out. Thank you to everyone involved in creating the Mental Wealth Festival. 

Takeaway:  What can I do to help?

As an individual I start with myself; I can share my stories, my hopes, and my strategies for mental wealth. I can lead by example.

As a researcher I can find ways to make my studies relevant and tangible to increase others mental wealth.

As a coach I can be there to listen and support.

I can always lighten the burden by bringing the topic around to the positive impact of shoes on our mental health. (Which I did at the end of Paul Dolan’s talk hence the photo!)

I’m not a social media ‘expert’ (my tee-shirt states ‘I don’t know’) but I do feel that it can be harnessed to get a positive message across - Is there a story you would like to share that could help others? I’d love to help you to share it.


Thank you
Photo credit: Philip Hardman Photography -www.philiphardmanphotography.com 
Everyone at BooksBeyondWords http://booksbeyondwords.co.uk/










Tuesday, 13 September 2016

Applying research based lessons to one’s own life



Being a bit of a ‘wannabe’ academic I like attend anything and everything in London which will further my understanding of psychology. This week I went along to the London & Home counties branch of the British Psychology Society to find out more about applying psychology research to my own life. The ‘Applied’ aspect of the MAPPCP I am studying is my favourite feature of the course, given a chance I will experiment on myself all the time. Any new intervention I come across is added to my growing list of ‘How to be Happy’. There is no rationale for this, whatever works for me I apply. I didn’t conduct a baseline test of my SWB before MAPP but I have a  feeling that I have  grown in wellbeing whilst studying at UEL; I’m bouncier , more confident, even cheerier than I previously was. I feel more ME.
  


The first speaker was Christian Jarrett, sharing tips for using psychology to get people to do what you want. Not in the least unethical apparently. We are allowed as Psychologists to use this knowledge to get our own way. Isn’t that amazing? 
We can legitimately carry out slightly dodgy ‘studies’ to prove that people’s power of persuasion can be replicated. My favourite piece of research that Christian shared related to some male French researchers getting girls phone numbers or asking them to dance by lightly touching them on the arm. Waiters also use this trick to get a bigger tip!
It’s also very useful to know that if you apologise for the rain then ask if you can borrow someone’s phone they are more likely to comply and you if scare someone before asking for a favour they may well agree as fear creates a distraction. Playing happy background music that is familiar to the listener has a similar power and you can ward off possible muggers by utilising the theory of interpersonal complementarity.


Christian Jarrett’s  5 top tips for getting what you want
  •        Utilise interpersonal complementarity 

My takeaway was people are more obedient than you think and you are more persuasive than you think, but at the end of the day manners and saying please when asking for a request really does the trick.
I’m wondering how to incorporate all of the above into getting my own way more often so if I bump into you in the street and pretend I know you, touch your arm as I say sorry for the awful weather whilst humming ‘singing in the rain’  then ask to borrow a fiver please …well you’ve been warned!

The second speaker of the evening was Dr Aneta Tunariu who spoke of her own experiences in learning to become a psychologist and how she applied each aspect of her training to her own life. The phrase that really resonated with me was ‘to develop professionally is to develop personally’. I feel that the process of being in positive psychology education has made me a better person; I am not only more intellectually aware but my emotional intelligence is greater, in applying  PP interventions to my own life I am becoming the version of myself I had  hoped was there all along.  In overcoming my academic limitations I have “strengthened and expanded my resilience as an adaptation to the environment”  which Aneta explains as happening when we are mindful of -


  •          What I am
  •          What I can
  •       What I have
  •          Choice: responsibility to choose and my own choice.
Aneta also talked of the links with positive emotions, wellbeing and personal growth, sharing Barabra Fredricksons research results and how they can be applied. I need to work on getting my positivity ratio up to the magic 3:1! 
iNEAR is Aneta's  recently designed psychological intervention informed by existential philosophy, positive psychology, developmental coaching, social psychology and psychotherapy. It has been successfully piloted at a large school in South East England and is also being tested as a framework for positive psychology coaching. 



My favourite takeaway from her presentation was her parting slide ‘ We first develop habits then habits develop us’. I think one of the ways that I have applied research based lessons to my own personal growth is by acquiring the habit of mindfulness and mindfulness has developed me towards being kinder, more compassionate, more understanding and I have gained greater clarity. Good habits make us happy. If research can inform us how to cultivate habits that make us, and the world around us, better then I will happily try them out and may even try to come up with some new studies to provide supporting evidence.

I would love to hear how you make research work for you? Have you tried any awesome PPIs? Does your own research provide you with new ways of being?
Let me know what works and how? 


Sunday, 14 August 2016

ColourWalking: Vibrant Flaneurs, A Moving Art Form Through the Streets of London.

ColourWalking: Vibrant Flaneurs

Galina is a stylist and owns a vintage store, Gigi’s Dressing Room in Walthamstow, East London. I met Galina at ‘ColourWalk’, an initiative she launched 5 months ago as a way to bring together the colourful personalities she had collected through her distinctive way of dressing and being.
She kindly agreed to meet up at Gigi’s to tell me about her philosophy and how she started the ColourWalk.

How did ColourWalk come about?

I was influenced by AdvancedStyle, I looked at what they were doing, and I thought they are just getting dressed up, walking around New York.  So I put up a Facebook page and said ‘who wants to dress up and get together?’ And it became a celebration of who we are and how we dress. The first ColourWalk was at the V&A, we wandered and chatted. I was thrilled Molly Parkin came along, she has been an inspiration to me, and it was lovely she joined us.  We all just support each other with the way we express ourselves through our way of dressing, we love being creative. I used to think that I would need to find ways to fund a foundation, to change the world in a big way, but you know this is what I can do every day…..just be me. If I can be a little bit of inspiration, if I can connect with people and share my values, then that’s enough.
The ColourWalk has already been forging new connections with amazing women like Sue Kreitzman, who attended the last one at Spitalfields, and now Advanced Style are saying ‘shall we do a ColourWalk?’  As Galina says, “they influenced me and then it goes back around….It’s always been about sharing ideas and collaborating for me. I don’t see this as ‘mine’ it’s for all of us to have fun with. I don’t have an agenda. It’s not like it’s a movement that I want to control! And ColourWalk is about all shapes, sizes, ages, colour, it’s about diversity and commonality. It’s for everyone to enjoy.

Where do these ideas come from?

I grew up under communism, I didn’t have much opportunity to be creative, that side of me was quite suppressed, I was sunny on the outside as a child but inside I was a little bit depressed. I couldn’t express myself. Not with the way I dressed, there was very little choice. But my grandmother had a sewing machine and I took her sixties pieces and reworked them for myself so even then I was beginning to take some control of how I looked.
Then at eighteen I came to London and it was like Alice in Wonderland. I went to Epsom Antique Market and I just went crazy. All the colours and all the choice; such a contrast to the greyness of growing up in Bulgaria.
And then I had my children, I was still quite young, for a while I wasn’t so interested in how I looked. When the children started school other mothers would ask about my clothes and I’d say come to the house and they would try stuff on and borrow things. I would style them; that would bring about changes in the way they saw themselves. I realised then that this was a kind of way of doing therapy. I had intended to go back to education and train in psychology but suddenly I had this business and it didn’t feel relevant to train as a counsellor. I seemed to naturally influence people to try something different, to step out of their comfort zone. We all have a need to express ourselves, to be creative, if I can encourage that, if I can help someone find out a bit more about who they are, to be brave and show themselves, then that feels good. And that’s what happens at Gigi’s. When clients say they have been ‘Gigified’ and they feel so much better, it makes me happy. I’m playing a small part in making it better for someone.

How does the way you dress reflect who you are?

When I wake up in the morning I look around my wardrobe and this item jumps out; so it makes me look a certain way and my outfit of the day is literally 100% reflection of my mood; of my vibration. Sometimes I feel down and I think I can change this. I accept that feeling of being sad, I’m not denying those feelings, but when I’m like that then that’s when I will choose something that is even more outrageous. I don’t want to hide away on those days. I will deliberately put myself in a position where I get more attention. I will embrace my attention seeking inner little child! I want to maintain a sense of humility but there is a difference between that and putting yourself down. When I dress in this way, when I am authentic, I communicate with more people, I make relationships and straight away that makes me feel better. And those connections make others feel good too. And I am inspired to play with my identity to forge more links to others and we create this cycle of inspiration. And it’s all because of the manner in which I dress.

Do you see Dress as having a way to make not just an individual happier but having a bigger part to play in the world?

So on a personal level when I suppress who I am it makes me unhappy, why I should be a particular way to suit others? I don’t want to fragmentize my personality, to split off my creativity; I want to express all of me so I can be a fully nuanced person. I can be quite political in the way I mix up the symbolism in how I dress; I take different cultural references and wear them together. This often leads to a dialogue. That’s good.  I want to spark off ideas and debate. My clothes do that. People stop me in the street and they may not always be complimentary but we talk and who knows they may go home and think yes we are all the same really. In this part of London we have such a mix of cultures it’s good to learn about each other, we are all humans underneath, I may not agree with your views but I can try to understand them. I want to create a community where we are all accepted, I do that in my own little way in Gigi’s. People drop by to chat and try on clothes and play with the way they look, people from all backgrounds and communities. It’s all-encompassing. That’s my vision that we all get along together, no one is left out. I start with myself, my ideas about fashion, and colour and the arts and how they have helped me, then I hope that my way helps others; that my love, of creativity, colour, way of being, expands and brings about healing and forgiveness. We can all share that. I don’t see fashion as being superficial if it can help me with these goals.

Gigi's Dresing Room



My Reflections

Galina shared so much with me during our chat. She has a beautiful philosophy on life. I can see how transformative her way of looking at the world is for her clients, she is nurturing, kind and encouraging. There is no sense that her way of dressing is right for everyone, but she inspires others to find their own way of being that can be expressed in the way that they dress. I love her vision for the unifying qualities that fashion can have for communities. The ColourWalk is a simple, tangible way of connecting people to each other, to walk and talk and experience a time and space together that is constrained only by a love of self-expression; like colourful Flaneurs, a moving art form through the streets of London.









Thursday, 28 July 2016

A journey from Ego to Selflessness in Elite Sport.


I have never given much thought to sports psychology; I will skip references to sport when they are introduced even by my favourite researcher,Adam Grant. It sometimes feels as if male positive psychology writers all conspire to introduce ‘soccer’ into any book.  I  do however appreciate the cross over with leadership across all areas and in the interest of expanding my knowledge attended a talk at the BPS in London by sports psychologist SteveSylvester.

Steve shared his personal journey on ego mountain and his discovery of the selfless route. He explored his career as both a  professional sportsman and psychologist to highlight the way in which his own ego challenged the success (and otherwise) of his career. He detailed of how he was able to trace the variations in his results by looking at his own ‘ME’ focus and how his research has continued to show a correlation between selflessness and winning across many sports.

Steve’s research methodology is time consuming and meticulous, he observes and listens to both individuals and teams, evidence gathering without judgement, before collecting data with in-depth interviews and group discussions. His qualitative research seems to produce rich layers of information at both micro and macro level; ideas that can be applied to individuals, teams and the culture of contemporary sports. His findings challenge the assumptions that in order to win we must be focused on beating others rather than being the best version of ourselves.  The line that kept occurring to me was ‘there is no I in team’. Looking through a PP lens many of his discoveries tally with concepts of flourishing, flow and mindfulness. I especially like his views on giving, they reflect Adam Grant’s work in showing that, contrary to popular expectations, when we ask how can I help rather than what can I get from this situation we create personal success as well as promoting collective success. In sports we expect the individual to be the centre of their universe; Steve’s work shows that when the motivation to be the best comes from a more collective mindset everyone wins. He told anecdotes about times when the difference between ‘about to fail’ and going on to win were attributable to an outward-looking mindset; the desire to be authentically your best for those you love or the team rather than forcing  a  ‘I must win or else’ approach.


Steve has developed simple steps to enable his research to be applied to all areas of life. Detox your EGO, is a straight forward approach to losing ‘What is it about for me?’ To becoming ‘What can I do for others?’

Takeaways for me last night include:
  • What do I avoid about myself?
  • Are my heart and mind aligned?
  • Am I having fun? Is everyday a Saturday?
  • Do I seek evidence that I am ‘good’ or ‘bad’ or am I able to just accept?
  • Can I tolerate ambiguity?
  • What’s going on below the surface?

My favourite insight from the evening is ‘How can I create a bright sunny internal climate when I perform?’  As a coach and practitioner I hope to generate environments in which my clients are able to flourish; in my own personal way of ‘being a coach’ rather than ‘coaching’ I want to lead others to shine. I want to lose my EGO and run naked with Balloons! (note to self :perhaps not whilst coaching.)



Steve has a vision of elite sports leaders who show us a new way to behave, to reflect positive personal selflessness that we can all model. His work with schools to teach children that you can be ‘nice and a winner’ is taking his research to the next generation of champions.  I was left last night with questions about applying this research to politics and leadership. Do female leaders find it easier to adapt these views to creating flourishing cultures? Are there studies exploring gender differences in selflessness, success and sports?  To what extent is a positive psychology sport coaching culture affecting the way that male dominated sports, such as football, are enabling men to explore their mental health and well-being? Can we as coaches use this research to encourage better ‘Mental Wealth’ in a population (men) that has been traditionally more resistant to self-reflection? And yes I am Aware that I have many gender stereotypes going on here but the views in the room last night appear to confirm that male sportsmen still feel that expressing emotions may make them look weak.

By his own admission Steve is still surprised that his research consistently uncovers the same results, I’m looking forward to seeing more real life evidence.  So how likely are we to see a culture of kindness in the premiere league this season? And what will this mean at Stamford Bridge? Can I look forward to more hugs and smiles at home games?


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Sunday, 24 July 2016

Collaboration,Community & Creativity: ECPP 2016 (Part 2)


Disclaimer: I am not a scientist. My background is in the arts and I am still reflecting on why any ‘proper’ science department would have taken me on board to study for a master’s in Psychology.  So thank you, UEL, for taking that risk!

The ECPP 2016 was my first chance to experience the positive psychology world beyond UEL. I was expecting experiential happiness. I was looking for others to creatively collaborate with in order to feel I belonged in this community of ‘clever, proper scientists’.

As someone whose signature strengths include creativity and a love of beauty and excellence, I was looking for ways to explore these areas at  ECPP. At first glance, the programme didn’t seem to offer any such opportunity. Where was the art and creativity? The programme had two entries mentioning creativity: Sue Langley – who was using emotions intelligently to enhance creativity and innovation, and Auguste Dumouilla – whose poster was about creativity, emotion and well-being.

Due to the hectic nature of the conference, I didn’t get to Sue’s session or find Auguste’s poster. However, I did find plenty of creativity to celebrate in Angers:

  •  The conference centre was teaming with individuals expressing themselves through the way they dressed; so much research material for my flourishing fashion project and an Instagram feed on its own!


  • There was also a constant thread running through the keynotes I attended that in order for PP to evolve we need to look outside of the sciences and reach across to other disciplines; collaborations which harness divergent views to create original outcomes.


  •  Coaching Psychology and creativity: I attended a symposium on coaching and PP, perfect partners for systemic change in which all of the speakers expressed creativity in the manner they presented as well as the content.


  •  Illona Boniwell’s closing keynote called for ‘making PP tangible’ which to my ears was a shout out to arts, crafts and design to get involved.


My vision for interdisciplinary collaboration to form a positive psychology art community begins with the very spaces the science of PP already inhabits: universities. UEL is a centre for amazing arts education. I would love to see the Psychology Department  reaching out to the arts in order to create a bi-directional culture of sharing research and ideas. Art graduates would benefit from accessing the wellbeing interventions that applied PP has to offer. Stress levels of the staff could be reduced with individual PP coaching, perhaps using coaching students who had a particular interest in creative practises to offer lunchtime sessions.  

The architects could collaborate on ways to make environments of flourishing informed by PP research. Research for innovative ways to make PP concrete would be enhanced by designers who aren’t constrained by the boundaries of science.  Who better to take a complex concept and make it useable than artists? It’s what they do in every area of their work. And of course the fashion department could make collections that make us all happy!  

On my last afternoon, I explored Angers galleries with a friend; bonding over art is one of my favourite experiences. There is a very special connection that occurs when we share the feelings that surface when we encounter art. I have ‘coached’ whilst wondering in galleries, the impact of imagery on allowing creative ways to surface never ceases to amaze. That very personal end to my first PP conference shaped my overall impression of the event.

If the success, on an individual level, of a conference is making one contact and finding one piece of inspiration then ECPP 2016 exceeded that. I came away with so many ideas that it has taken me a month to filter them and make any sense of where they fit with my personal vision. (I am a percolator not a procrastinator!) I cemented existing connections and made new contacts with positive people from all over the world. I hope that in sharing my ideas about the conference on social media I will continue to form new associations that offer me opportunities to hear differing opinions and perspectives.

On the flight home – so full of positive people that the cabin was buzzing with energy – I chatted with Felicia Huppert. It’s always exciting when you can talk to one of your heroes,  I mentioned how well her dress had stood out at her keynote speech and the impact it had from the back of the auditorium. She replied: “that’s my happy dress, I wore it for a special birthday and it always makes me feel good.” I apologise for not asking if I can use the quote, Felicia, but the validation you gave my research made me feel as if there is a place for me in Positive Psychology. Perhaps fashion and PP is the perfect fusion.

I went to Angers looking for the three ‘C’s: collaboration, community and creativity; I found them.



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Thursday, 21 July 2016

10 transformative takeaways from ECPP 2016 (Part 1)




        1.  Lisa Vivoll Straume (MIND)  - Toolkit Strength Based Development Workshop

I learnt:  i) How to map my own strength quadrant.         
               ii) The importance of individual strengths when building a team
               ii) The power of Table Top and Simulations to create solutions.

I felt:      Elated. Inspired. Energised.  

I will:       Take care not to overuse my core strengths and to pay attention when my ‘allergy’ strengths are activated so I pause and respond rather than react.


Want to know more?    MIND

Straume, L. V. & Vittersø, J. (2015). Well-being at work: Some differences between life satisfaction and personal growth as predictors of subjective health and sick-leave. Journal of Happiness Studies. 16, 149-168. doi:10.1007/s10902-014-9502-y

Straume, L.V., (2015). "Leadership development in positive psychology: Practical methods for balancing the use of core values and strengths» Symposium presentation at the EAWOP Conference, Oslo: May 22

Kvernmo, A. (2015). Symposium "Magic Moments. Strength-spotting in value-oriented leadership development» Symposium presentation at the EAWOP Conference, Oslo: May 22, 2015

     2. James Pawleski- What is positive psychology? The importance of Theory for Research and Practice.

I learnt:  i) Work is still needed to clarify the core concepts of PP and communicate them more effectively.
                 ii) I can give you a RED cape which will let you stop “bad” things. Or I can give you a GREEN cape which will let you grow good” things. Which cape will you choose?
                ii) Fractal flourishing holds out for the well-being of individuals and groups, valuing happiness in the short-term and in the long-term. This   approach  works both locally and globally.

I felt:      uplifted that the positive in PP is still relevant.  

I will:       Always pack a reversible cape.

Want to know more? James Pawleski




     3.  Bob Vallerand  It's about time: The role of passion in adaptive self process.

I learnt:  i) Harmonious passion is good for us.
                 ii) Optimal functioning is temporal.
                iii) The highest level of well-being is achieved with a positive present state combined with a positive/resolved past and an optimistic future.

I felt:      passionate…. All-be-it with a touch of obsession.

I will:       Take a positive outlook on time and combine it with harmonious passion in order to achieve optimum psychological well-being.

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    4. Barbara Frederickson Why Prioritize Positivity?

I learnt:  i) Prioritizing positivity can trigger upward spirals of lifestyle change and the development of harmonious passion.
                 ii) Individuals who seek positivity, with decisions about how to organize their day-to-day lives, may be happier than those who don’t.
                ii) Studies suggest that seeking happiness, although a balancing act, is a worthwhile pursuit. 

I felt:      Absorbed and engaged…And also a little bit awed (bit of a crush going on I think!)

I will:       Set aside time each day for feel good activities which are as vital to my wellbeing as exercise, nutrition and sleep.




     5.  Mohsen Fatemi -Positive Psychology and Psychology of Possibility 

I learnt:  i) Infinite possibilities unfold themselves in emergent modes of mindfulness.
                 ii) Langerian psychology of possibility concentrates on what can be.
                iii) Only one participant is needed to substantiate that something is possible.

I felt:      Validated for  wanting qualitative research, most especially IPA, to be more prevalent in PP.

I will:       Notice new things. Live proactively in the moment. Be sensitive towards context. Celebrate multiple perspectives.


     6.  Neil Garret how the brain forms optimistic beliefs

I learnt:  i) People incorporate good news into their existing beliefs in a normative manner but they discount bad news leading to optimistically biased beliefs.
                 ii) This asymmetry fluctuates in response to changes in the environment in a way that may be adaptive.
               iii)  Balanced variation in this is more likely to be observed in depression and middle age.

I felt:      Not clever enough to be a doing a science masters!  

I will:       Adjust my beliefs in response to external information with more consideration.


     7. Felicia Huppert  What makes people flourish? 

I learnt:  i) The real reason well-being matters is that well-being is an end in itself – an ultimate good.
                 ii) The skills of attention, emotion regulation, and self-compassion all underpin flourishing.
                ii) Mindfulness is the key to unlocking these skills.

 I felt:      Mindful. Kindful. And amazed at the fact that Felicia’s dress was such a good choice as it created an impact even from the very back of the auditorium.  

I will:      Continue to be mindful.



8. Neil Thin - Aspirational social planning: beyond social problems and living standards.

I learnt:  i) Good minds need good societies.           
                 ii) The importance of  social transformations required to support individual flourishing.
                ii) A cross –disciplinary approach is needed to find innovative ways to inform public policy in bringing about the changes necessary for great societies.  

I felt:      Elated. Inspired. Energised.  

I will:       Take small steps to collaborate with others to find ways to make our environments more conducive to well-being.



    9. Coaching psychology and positive psychology – perfect partners.  Symposium.  Stephen Palmer,  Suzy Green & Ilona Boniwell

I learnt:  i) there is no ‘I’ in team.           
                 ii) You can take the psychology out of coaching but not the psychology out of coaching psychology.
                iii) Problem Island can be transformed into the solution island with the right  coaching questions.
                 iv) Creating a positive culture fits naturally with coaching.
                v) Happiness bubbles exist.

I felt:      In the right Room, at the right time with the right people.

I will:       Not groan (GROWn) when I use the GROW model yet again.
               Create my own ‘dashboard’
               Not be embarrassed about being creative with PP; its OK to embrace my deviant thinking…being original can be an asset in this field.

Want to know more?   http://www.isfcp.net/ 






10. Ilona Boniwell –  Positive Education :making positive psychology tangible

I learnt:  i) THINKERING – Think + tinker : the creation and understanding of concepts in the mind while tinkering with the hands.  
                 ii) ‘Hands on thinking’ – purpose, framing, sharing, exploring, combining.      
     ii) “You can discover more about a person in an hour of play than in a year of conversation” Plato

 I felt:      Delighted to be part of this ‘family’ of PP. Sad that this was the end of my first experience of a PP conference. Positive that we can make a difference by applying this science stuff with creativity, originality and flair.

I will:       Take my new found confidence ( I wouldn’t have dreamt that I could be so brave as to ask the closing question!) into my life.

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